So yesterday I went to a haunted house with my mom, my brother, my one cousin, my other cousin and his girlfriend. Now after all that was said and done we jumped in my car and were headed home.
Now, my cousin was in the back seat with my mom and they started talking about my other cousin. He’s in the Marines and right now is on some boat somewhere over somewhere. I have no idea where, but that’s not the point. The point of this diatribe is what the two of them were talking about and how women and men communicate differently and how far apart we are in our thought processes.
So the situation was this, my cousin is getting married next year sometime (the Marine) and his fiance is still here while he’s out doing whatever the hell Marines do on boats. But they’re getting ready for the impending wedding.
So the cousin in the back seat went with his fiance to the store to find a dress. She offered to buy it for her and she accepted. Now this other woman was there and she got into the mix about don’t buy this dress because then you have to wear it and if you return it you’ll only get store credit and blah blah blah. And my cousin got pissed about her doing that because she had offered to buy the dress for my other cousin’s fiance.
At least that’s what I remember of the story. About half way through this story my brother and I looked at one another and rolled our eyes. Its never ceased to amaze me how women react to things. So we all started talking about weddings.
This is when I got another lesson in what women hear as opposed to what I said. My brother said, “Who cares, she saved you some money and you’re off the hook on buying that dress.” I added to that, “Why do you want to get into the mix of planning and putting together a wedding anyway? Just let them do what they want and show up on the appointed day and time.”
They shot back with a myriad of things that all seemed to degrade into the clucking of two hens in the back. There was something about wanting to help out, something about that woman should’ve kept her opinion to herself, something about how men don’t understand weddings, something about you’re just a dumb ass guy anyway.
Then I had the gall to say something about guy’s don’t really care about weddings anyway, all they really care about is that the woman is happy. No guy really gives a shit about cakes or napkins or centerpieces or any of that shit.
Now all they heard was the “I don’t give a shit” part. They went crazy on me.
Here’s the question. Why is it so important to women about weddings that they damn near force the guy to do all this goofy stuff and pick out all the napkins and centerpieces and halls and churches and yada yada yada...
Especially when we ALL know that the woman cares very little (if at all) about the guy’s opinion. So long as the guy wants what she wants, its okay. If he wants something she doesn’t there’s a fight.
Everyone knows a wedding is HER day. The guy is there mostly just for the open bar and the sex at the end.
Its not like I’m being evil. I was just trying to explain to them that whatever she wants is fine with most guys. Why is that so wrong?